How long have you been doing what you do and how did you get to be a libido pleasure coach for women?
I started work as a libido coach in 2016 and since then have helped hundreds of men, women and couples experience more sexual pleasure in their lives. My business was growing, I received press and TV attention, things were going well…..
And then I got fed up.
I got fed up with all the myths, lies and nonsense surrounding what I call the “Standard Western Model of Sex” which I see failing all my clients, but particularly my female clients.
Too many women were working with me to try to fit into a mould which was not designed with their pleasure in mind. Too many women, of all ages, shapes and sizes, are made to feel inadequate and broken by a model of sexuality that misunderstands and mistreats our bodies. It was totally out of alignment for me to continue to work within such a model.
So after 4 years of working inside the system I chose to break free, to follow my real passion and birth a business which is entirely dedicated to female sexual pleasure: in 2020 The Dea Process was born.
For thousands of years the pleasure WE experience from sex has been an afterthought, or byproduct, of sex. Enough now. It’s time to feel delight, wonderment, joy, sensation, bliss, abandonment and love in our bodies again. It’s time.
I am passionate about the importance of pleasure, including sexual pleasure, in women’s lives. And I know from my personal experience I know how hard it is to reignite passion, desire and pleasure in a tired, misunderstood and mistreated body on your own. (You can listen to
my personal story here.
Who are your clients exactly?
My clients are women of all ages. Most are in long term heterosexual relationships, but as The Dea process is about activating female sensual pleasure in women’s bodies, it is also very effective for women in same sex relationships.
Many of my clients are mothers. In a myriad of different ways the demands of motherhood has disconnected them from their bodies as a source of pleasure. They come to me feeling drained, depleted, empty, lonely and often depressed, longing to feel young, spirited, sparkling and alive again.
Most of my clients are women in relationships which have become distant and strained. My clients yearn for intimacy, but lack the skills, understanding or energy to reignite it. As they progress through The Dea Process, and reconnect with their Goddess energy within, their relationships blossom and grow.
All of my clients have become disconnected from the joy within their own bodies. I work with them to reconnect them to their joy and cultivate their pleasure.
How are you different from other sex coaches and sex therapists?
As a mature woman I have lived my client’s life:
I have experienced the bleak loneliness that results from a lack of intimacy and sexual energy in your life.
I have experienced the fierce resistance within my body and from friends and family to doing even gentle practices to bring joy back into my life.
I know how terrifying it can be to think or talk about our bodies, sex and pleasure!
The reason why I am able to take women on a profound journey of transformation is because I am only a few steps ahead, on my own journey. I am in the mud with you, sometimes still floundering, but always, always reaching for my pleasure and my joy.
My learning was personal before it became professional. When I set off on this path I had no idea that I would create a business teaching women what I had learned to save my own life.
Yes - I have attended courses all around the world, yes - I have a bunch of certifications, yes - I have read dozens of books on sexuality…... all of which give me much of the knowledge that I have poured into The Dea Process; but most importantly, I have learned in person, by living the life I have lived.
What type of personality do you work best with and what is expected of me?
I work best with people who are open minded, committed and willing to trust me. I 100% believe in your transformation, I believe in your pleasure, I believe in your ability to feel sexually confident and alive again. All I ask is that you trust me and trust the process. People who show up and do the practices ALWAYS get the results they desire.
The Dea Process was designed for deep transformation, but you have to allow it. You have to gracefully allow yourself to commit to finding the time, the space and the determination to invest in a renewed version of you.
What kind of person will NOT work successfully with you?
Coaching is a ‘do-with’ process, I show up as your coach with practices and tools to guide you through profound transformation, the more you are able to relax, trust in me and release your expectations about how it should be, the more fun and success you will have.
What never works is a client trying to manage me or the session, if you cannot drop the need to control every last detail, then this process will not work for you.
If you are stubbornly conventional, unable to challenge social norms and refuse to take on new ideas, new attitudes or new behaviours, we will not work well together and you will not be successful.
Finally, coaching is a process that fundamentally believes in the power of the individual to change their own lives. Women have been deeply conditioned into thinking that men are responsible for sex and that if we (women) are to experience sexual pleasure then it’s men who have to change.
Whilst there may be some truth in this, the empowering place for any women to be is to recognise that as she changes the blueprinting and belief systems in her own body (through the coaching process) she changes her internal experience which in turn transforms her external relationships.
People who are unable to take responsibility and persist in blaming others, their fate, circumstances, bad luck etc etc will not have a successful experience with coaching.
Does your approach really work?
YES! It really does. It always amazes me how profoundly women’s lives are transformed by The Dea Process.
It’s partly because it’s a huge relief to women to be allowed to take the pressure off themselves of trying to fit into a box that wasn’t designed for us.
It’s also because they are given a safe, loving space to talk about and learn about their pleasure, often for the first time in their lives.
And it’s because the practices work by gently and effectively changing how our bodies experience “sex”. For those of us with deep shame or guilt, who feel unsafe or maybe disgust, the practices imprint pleasure, bliss, love, kindness, acceptance and even ecstasy. It is truly wonderful to feel at peace and at home in your sexuality again.
What results can I expect?
After just one session it is very likely that you will feel an increased level of sensation in your body and already be feeling differently about yourself!
Then depending on your level of commitment, you will cultivate more and more sensation, pleasure and confidence. Typically my clients report back:
Massive increase in body confidence
More love and acceptance of themselves than they have ever felt in their lives
More energy and vibrancy each and every day
A renewed desire to get out of bed in the mornings
Moments of pure joy each and every day
More laughter in the home
A fizzy lightness in their bodies
A bouncy step
Increased levels of visibility in the world - people notice them and my clients take up more space!
Weight loss, my clients look and feel younger than they have done in years
Deeper levels of intimacy with their partners
Much more comfort in talking about sex and sexual needs with their partner
More fun and playful sex
More frequent orgasms
A renewed desire for sex
How quickly can I expect results?
This honestly depends on you: your commitment, your open mindedness, your willingness to relax and allow the process to work it’s magic.
If you show up to your sessions and commit to the practices between our sessions you will experience results very quickly, most people experience results within weeks.
Will I recover the investment I put into this coaching programme?
You are investing money and time in a programme which will give you, initially at least, a non-monetary reward. It is difficult, especially as women, to put a monetary value on our happiness and pleasure. We are deeply, deeply conditioned to put other people's happiness and pleasure before our own, even at the expense of our own!
What I do 100% know is that life with pleasure in it is more vibrant, more alive, more intimate, more connected….we are more confident, more magnetic, more visible and more powerful.
It is 100% certain that the life you live WITH pleasure will be a richer, better version of any life you could live without it, everyone in your life will benefit and you will probably even magnetise more money too!
How will we work together and what does the programme entail?
Bringing sexual pleasure back into your life can feel like an impossible task, especially when you are living with the stagnant, grey energy of a life without pleasure - I was there, I remember!
The Dea Process is designed to hold you, guide you and believe in you so that you are able to rebloom. It does this by:
1.Creating a safe place in which you feel comfortable talking about sex and your feelings about sex without fear of judgement or shaming; sometimes for the first time ever.
2.Encouraging you to use a new language when talking about your sexual body, for many clients just choosing how they want to talk about their bodies is hugely transformational.
3.Connecting you to your divine feminine, your Goddess - this is The DEA Process after all (Dea is the Greek word for Goddess). You will finish the programme knowing her, feeling her, talking to her and being guided by her.
4.Busting myths that keep you disconnected from your Goddess. Female sexuality has been shamed and silenced for 5,000 years, it’s no wonder that you find it difficult to access your Goddess energy and your pleasure.
5.Teaching new ways to access, feel and enjoy your sexual energy. Ancient Tantric practices are used to change the blueprint of your body from shame, disgust and fear to safety, pleasure and bliss.
6.Guiding you through spoken practices to help you access and understand the parts of you that are currently preventing you from experiencing sexual pleasure in your body.
7.Calling you to step into your full Goddess power and energy. This IS your sexual birthright.
What are your coaching programmes like?
They are fun! Sexuality is more pleasurable when it is fun. When you make room for laughter, smiles, curiosity and playfulness, you have a lot more pleasure and a lot more fun.
There are moments, especially during sessions with me, when pain and sadness will come up, release work often involves tears, but you are never alone, you are held in a bubble of safety. And guided to return to pleasure.
They are profoundly transformational. Imagine The Dea Process as a light switch. When you switch on this light you light up your whole life and realise that sexuality is not a discrete activity to fit in when you can, but a fundamental ingredient for a vibrant and joy-filled life.
How long is the programme?
Different people need and want different levels of support, so I have created different ways for you to experience The Dea Process to suit your life and your schedule:
This 6 month programme is for the woman who is 100% committed and ready for profound transformation. She has reached that point when “good enough” is no longer good enough; she wants MORE (pleasure, sensation, orgasm, joy, vitality, confidence, love...) now!!!
In this programme we schedule two 90 minute1:1 coaching calls and two 30 minute 1:1 check-in calls a month, we talk at least once a week to ensure you are totally held through The Dea Process. As well as working with me weekly, you will receive all the practices and meditations of The Dea Process plus additional bespoke recordings if I feel they would help your progress, you will also have daytime access to me via Whatsapp and/or email, and with this package only, I offer support for your husband or partner.
Sexual transformation is a deeply intimate and vulnerable process, I want you to know that after my own family, you are my #1 priority. I will do whatever it takes to help you feel sexually confident and alive again.
This option allows women to access The Dea Process in smaller bites. Every woman wants increased sexual pleasure and confidence, but not everyone wants to commit to an intense 6 month programme. Which is why I broke the 6 month process into three modules which you can do at your own pace:
Part I Awakening Dea
Part II Playful Dea
Part III Confident Dea
With this option we schedule 6 weekly 90 minute 1:1 sessions and you will receive all the practices and meditations of The Dea Process to do in your own time at home between sessions.
I strongly suggest that my clients begin with Awakening Dea and then progress through the other modules as they desire. You do not have to do all the modules to experience profound changes in your life, but most of my clients decide to progress through all three modules of The Dea Process to learn and experience as much as they possibly can. The beauty is, you are in control.
Created for graduates of Dea Delux or Dea Trinity who have done the transformational work and want to stay within my bubble of care to fully embed the changes they have made. I liken this programme to the retainer my kids were given to wear on their teeth at night after their fixed braces came off (not a super sexy analogy, I know!)
In this option you can book up to an hour of 1:1 calls with me a month. How you use your hour is up to you: you may prefer one full 60 minute session a month, or you may want to talk a few times for shorter lengths of time. The important thing is that you use your full hour each month as the time does not get carried over between months! You will remain part of the Dea Community, which gives you access to new practices and meditations I create to best serve my clients. I do not recommend this programme for people who have not been through the transformation of The Dea Process.
Ok, I know which programme I want. How do we get started?
YAY!!!! That is such good news!! I am so looking forward to being a witness to all the joy, pleasure and happiness that you are about to unleash.
If you haven’t already, the next step is to book a
call with me.
Then I would like to suggest that you make some time before we speak to talk to your husband/partner about your decision to work with me. If you need to agree the financial investment with them this is the time to do it and it will help you immensely to have them supporting you through this programme. (I have prepared
this short video for them if it helps you have this conversation.
And I would also ask you to make sure that you complete and return the pre-call questionnaire to me. The more I know about your specific circumstances the better able I am to match you to the best programme.
If I’m not sure I’m ready to get started, how can I sample your work at low cost to see if it’s the right solution for me?
One way to get to know me and the way I work a bit better at no cost is to subscribe to my weekly newsletter. Every week I send out my latest YouTube video with additional advice, tips and ideas. Subscribe to my newsletter
I also run a private Facebook group called
“Camilla’s Kitchen Table”. I am creating a community of wise, witty, warm women who gather in safety ‘at my table’ to talk about female sexuality, sensuality and pleasure.
If you know you want to start changing your life but you don’t feel quite ready to take the plunge, these two resources will give you a lot of support, advice and encouragement.
I have a family and a busy life. Although I want to feel sexually fizzy and confident again, I don’t have much time to spare. How much time do I need?
You are not alone! And I know how challenging it is for women to carve out time in our hectic lives for ourselves. I also know how vitally important it is that we do it!
In addition to our scheduled calls, if you find half an hour a day for the practices I ask you to do, you will experience amazing results.
Ok, I am ready to do this for myself, but I have a couple of additional questions. Can I call you?
Absolutely! If you haven’t already, use this link to book a
call with me and I will be happy to go through all the different options with you and answer any questions you have.
And well done, this is a big step you have decided to take. Making the decision to move into a better future is often the toughest bit. Please, take a few moments to celebrate yourself! Feel into the sensations of excitement and anticipation in your body. Remember the power and joy in this moment!
I am deeply honoured that you are trusting me to help you and very much look forward to meeting you.